Tuesday Vargas naglitanya tungkol sa isyu ng respeto sa nakatatanda matapos ang pasabog ni Dina sa ugali ni Alex
Tuesday Vargas
MAY mahabang aria si Tuesday Vargas sa kanyang Facebook account and although she did not name names, it was obvious that she was alluding to Alex Gonzaga and her rift with Dina Bonnevie.
Tuesday talked about kasi professionalism in her long aria.
“Usapang ‘matanda’. Naalala nyo po ba ang laging bukang bibig ng ating mga magulang kapag tayo ay napagsasabihan?
“‘Papunta ka palang, pauwi na ako.’ Ito ay panay nating nadidinig kapag tayo ay may nagagawang mali lalo na kung nangangatwiran pa tayo para makalusot.
“Kamakailan ay maingay ang usap usapan ng kawalan ng respeto at manipis na lebel ng professionalism ng mga kabataan pagdating sa trabaho lalo na sa issue ng pag paratang ng ‘matanda’ sa pumuna ng nasabing ugali.
“Ipapaliwanag ko po sa aking sariling pananaw bakit ganito ang sinasabi ng dalawang panig,” mahabang panimula ng komedyana.
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Inisa-isa niya ang kanyang mga dahilan.
“1. Respect for autonomy – Ano po ba ito? Ito yung pakiramdam ng mga kabataan ng kanilang pagiging independent.
“Mula bata ay ang kanilang mga magulang ang kanilang inaasahan pero darating ang edad na may sarili na silang isip, mga gusto at hilig, sariling pananaw sa buhay. Kaya kapag ito ay threatened, dahil nga hindi pa mataas ang emotional inteligence nila, sila ay mag a act out
“Dalawa ang dapat iconsider dito. Una, bilang mga nakaka tanda, kailangan nating isipin na bigyan ng puwang ang mga bata to be their own person. Kahit na ipilit natin na sabihin ‘noong panahon namin, hindi pwede yan’, iba ang panahon nila ngayon at ang kanilang laban.
“Pero mga anak ito ang inyong pakinggan: Maiba man ang kalakaran, ANG RESPETO AY RESPETO. Kung nais ninyong mamuhay sa isang functioning society, lalo na kung kayo ay menor de edad na nag tratrabaho na (kagaya ng mga batang artista), kailangan ay matuto kayong akuin hindi lamang yung autonomy na pinaglalaban ninyo pati na rin lalo ang responsibilidad na kasama nito.
“At yan ang pangalawang punto- ang inyong so called independence ay bunga ng inyong pagpapalaki. Kayo ay dapat armado ng values na sa bahay pa lang ay binuo na ng inyong mga magulang- magulang ninyo na matanda na rin.
“Kaya ang pag galang sa isang nakakatanda sa inyo ay repleksyon ng inyong pag linang. Kung gusto ninyong maging tunay na malaya sa inyo kilos at galaw ay kuhain nyo din ang mga ka akibat nitong responsibilidad.
“2. Pag glorify sa youth culture at popularity — Sa panahon ngayon, hindi na enough na magaling ka lang. Minsan magtataka ka na maraming content creators ang milyon ang followers pero kapag pinanood mo ang output masasabi mong wala namang ma aaninag na talento. Sadyang may X factor silang di ma pin point na kinagigiliwan ng marami.
“We celebrate youth and beauty, its aspirational. Lahat ng produkto na mabenta ay ma label an anti aging, age reverse, miracle youth formula. Ito ay gusto ng mga tao dahil ito ay sa tingin natin- MAGANDA. Those that hold these traits have POWER. And those that do not are perceived as hateful and bitter.
“So anong sinasabi natin sa mga may edad na hindi na gaanong relevant at nangangaral sa socmed? ‘Tama ka na! Laos ka na! Tumahimik ka tanda tanda mo na!’
“Ito ay sumasalamin sa talamak na ageism sa ating lipunan. Hindi maaaring i dismiss ang wisdom that comes with age.
“Hindi rin porket may sinasabi ang mas nga nakakatanda na sila ay nakiki sakay lamang sa issue at after the clout lamang. There is bearing in the complaints brought about by our elders and we should take heed and stride.
“One question to ask is, ‘where is this path taking us?’ If the negative behaviors of today’s youth has escalated so much already, the problem is going to keep growing if not addressed. An issue left unsolved does not dissipate.
“Adults have been personally victimized with the heinous words and physical abuse of children and adolescents. Respect has not been properly taught or enforced in a considerable amount of today’s youth and it is consequently shaping today’s society in detrimental ways.
“This isn’t saying that children are these evil, disrespectful, adult-haters. Children learn a great amount from their parents. What a parent consistently does, their child will most likely to do.
“One of those things that children learn is disrespect. Parents themselves often use harsh and demeaning terms to talk to their children. Harsh tones, negative terms, and deconstructing criticism deeply influences how children feel towards their parents and other adults.
“I get that most these youngsters are movers and shakers nowadays, they dominate and influence their followers’ consciousness. So I think young people nowadays should look towards the guidance of their parents to become better role models for those who look up to them because what they do is being emulated by many.
“3. Entitlement mentality — Children today are less respectful of others than earlier generations. Today’s children are more spoiled because they have more material wealth than kids in earlier times.
“This, combined with a decline in morals, has led to an entitlement mentality, causing children to care more about themselves and less about how their actions affect other people. They do not display the proper respect toward their peers or adults.
“Children show less respect to their peers than children in the past. This is not to say that past generations were perfect, but evidence shows that bullying has increased greatly in schools. The increased use of electronic devices has contributed to this problem.
“Texting and social networking sites make it easy for kids to write bad things about their peers or to harass them. This also provides an outlet for kids to bash people who annoy them, such as their friends or parents.
“This type of communication takes away the personal contact of a conversation. It is difficult to censor electronic forms of communication, and it may not be clear until the school or police get involved that there is a problem.
“While morals and respect toward others have declined, a faithful few refuse to bow to the ways of the world. There are still those who know how to be polite and how to respect each other, because they were taught well by their parents.
“So long story short, if we want our kids to grow up as outstanding members of society and not become rotten, self centered individuals, we start in our own homes.
“Ibig sabihin mga nanay at tatay, huwag iwan lagi sa electronic devices ang mga anak. Communicate with your children and let them access the values you should be passing on to them so they carry it over in their daily lives.”
Sa huli ay ito ang mensahe ni Tuesday, “Yun lamang po. Ito ay aking sinabi bilang isang magulang din and I felt we should all re examine how we are raising the young people of today.
“We are all responsible as a community on how they turned out. Not just how we deal with them but the media they consume, the interactions they have, the quality of their home life. Let this be an eye opener to all of us that the problem lies in society as a whole and it is also up to us to remedy it.”
Ang ganda ng kanyang punto, right?
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