Ruffa Gutierrez at Herbert Bautista
BUKOD sa itsura, mas mahalaga pa rin para kay Ruffa Gutierrez ang lalaking may takot sa Diyos at yung handang gawin ang lahat para maproteksyunan siya nang bonggang-bongga.
Yan ang sinabi ng aktres at dating beauty queen sa panayam sa kanya ni Dra. Vicki Belo na napapanood sa YouTube channel nito.
Hindi man binanggit ni Ruffa ang pangalan ng idine-date niya ngayon, hatala namang ang tinutukoy niya ay ang dating alkalde ng Quezon City na si Herbert Bautista.
Matagal nang nababalita ang tungkol sa relasyon ng dalawa pero until now ay hindi pa rin nila diretsahang inaamin kung sila na nga talaga.
Ayon kay Ruffa, napakapositibo ng impluwensiya sa kanya ni Herbert at sa sandaling panahon pa lamang ng kanilang espesyal na relasyon ay napakarami na nitong naiturong life lesson sa kanya.
“Physical, that’s the first thing that you see. But para sa akin, importante to get the same values. You’re God-fearing, he protects you, you feel safe with them, he inspires you to be a better person.
“And I think the person that I’m dating right now inspires me to be a better person,” ang pahayag ni Ruffa sa chikahan nila ni Vicki Belo.
“I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, hindi ako nakapagtapos ng college kung hindi dahil sa kanya.
“Sabi niya, ‘Kaya mo ‘yan.’ Sabi ko, ‘Yeah, okay. I’ll just take up short course.’ Uso noong pandemic yung master class, three months, two months.
“I even took up Designs of Well-Being in Yale University, two weeks lang yon. And he said, ‘Hindi, tapusin mo yung college mo. Kaya mo yon.’
“Now, I’m studying again, kasi mahilig mag-aral itong taong ito. And now I am studying again, taking up my Master’s, so he’s leading me towards the right path,” tuluy-tuloy na pahayag ng aktres.
Pagpapatuloy pa niya, “Only God knows kung magkakatuluyan kami in the future or not, but what’s nice is he’s directing me to that path na kahit na alam kong kaya ko ba ito, ‘Kakayanin ko ba ito? Para sa akin ba ito?’ Sabi niya, ‘Hindi, kaya mo yan.’
“He makes me a better person, and I think that’s what I need now,” dagdag na chika pa ni Ruffa.
Wala rin daw isyu sa kanya ang edad ng lalaki. Six years ang agwat ng edad nila ni Bistek — 54 years old na si Herbert habang 48 naman si Ruffa.
Three years ang tanda ni Ruffa sa ex-husband niyang si Yilmaz Bektas, at 15 years naman ang agwat ng edad nila ng ex-boyfriend niyang French national na si Jordan Mouyal.
“Age doesn’t matter as long as you’re mature, number one. I think age is just a number, honestly, kasi there’s some people daw… I mean, I don’t date a lot of young, old guys.
“Even Yilmaz, surprisingly, lahat nagulat na he’s three years younger than me. The ex (Jourdan) matagal. Kasintagal ni Yilmaz.
“Guys, I’m a long-termer. I don’t change boyfriends like clothes. Seven years kami ni Yilmaz.
“Seven years kami ng French boyfriend ko. He was 15 years younger than me but he was very mature. He was able to cope naman with how I am,” ani Ruffa.
Sey pa niya, “But like I said, age is just a number, and for me, hindi ko kaya kapag may betrayal. Yung sinasabi nila na guys cheating.
“I’d rather you leave them na and just do your own thing. Bakit kailangan mag-cheat kaya kailangan na talaga ng divorce sa Pilipinas?” lahad pa ng isa sa lead stars ng Marcos movie na “Martyr or Murderer”.
Humirit naman si Vicki Belo nang mabanggit ni Ruffa ang salitang “betrayal,” “I know that your ex is dating one of your best friends and I know that girl coz she’s really somebody close to you and you’re such a wonderful friend. So how does that feel?”
Tugon ni Ruffa, “In the beginning, siyempre galit ka, kasi kaibigan mo, di ba? I left kasi the person. I left him because I didn’t see a future with him so it’s very clear na wala naman siyang naging kasalanan sa akin.
“It’s just that I wasn’t growing anymore after seven years, it’s time for you to think na where is this relationship going? Is it still inspiring me to be the best person that I can be?
“I just didn’t know sasaluhin siya ng isa sa mga close friend ko. Alam ko naman, makikipag-date siya. Alam ko naman yon dahil pinakawalan ko na nga, pero para i-date ng friend ko na malapit talaga sa akin, it’s more of the betrayal of the friendship.
“But now, looking back in hindsight, I know that there’s something better waiting for me. And that’s the reason why we didn’t get along to begin with, is because may naghihintay na para sa akin na bigay ni Lord.
“I think it’s time for me to be with someone that God chooses for me. Not to sound super holy, but I think yun ang totoo. Kasi, we always choose one’s that we like, that we desire.
“This time, I just wanna say, ‘God, Ikaw na ang bahala sa akin. I wanna leave all my worries, all my pains up to You and Kayo na ang magbigay ng tamang tao para sa akin.’ And I think that’s the best,” chika pa ng aktres at TV host.
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