Kylie Padilla, Alas at Axl Abrenica
MALALIM ang hugot ng Kapuso actress na si Kylie Padilla pagdating sa isyu ng “toxic masculinity” na nakakaapekto umano sa pagiging nanay niya sa dalawang lalaking anak.
Aminado ang celebrity mom na napakarami pa niyang dapat matutunan upang mas maging mabuting magulang at single parent kina Alas at Axl (anak niya kay Aljur Abrenica).
Ayon kay Kylie, kailangan niyang ilagay sa tamang perspektibo ang pananaw niya tungkol sa toxic masculinity upang mas maging malawak ang kanyang isip sa pag-aalaga at pagpapalaki ng dalawang anak na lalaki.
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Sa latest post ni Kylie sa Instagram, makikita na hawak niya ang librong “How To Raise A Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men” na isinulat ni Michael C. Reichert.
Maaari raw itong maging gabay sa mga magulang para mas maging “confident, accomplished and kind men” ang kanilang mga anak na boys.
Sa kanyang caption, sinabi nga ni Kylie na totoong meron siyang bias at isyu sa “toxic beliefs on masculinity” at baka raw hindi niya mapalaki nang tama sina Alas at Axl kung may “resentment” pa rin sa kanyang isip puso ang ilang negatibong paniniwala tungkol sa kalalakihan.
“One thing about me is that I am painfully welcome to anything that will give me a humbling experience. Once my anxiety creeps I sit with it and figure out what my soul is trying to tell me.
“After these few days I have been grappled with a question. So what truly makes a good man? What does it mean to be a good man in this terribly heartless and cruel world?” ang simulang pagbabahagi ni Kylie.
Patuloy pa niya, “I found myself wallowing in my own bias and well, judgement and noticed that I too need some educating on this subject.
“After all my two boys will one day become men and I hope to guide them correctly to the right path where their feelings, failures, mistakes are properly understood and processed rather than excused as weakness. I cannot do that if I have resentment towards their sex.
“There is a lot of healing that still needs to be done. That’s where books play such a crucial role in my life. They have always been a parent to me in some strange way.
“So far this book has made me reflect on my own style of parenting and strangely see from new eyes how and why the other men in my life became the way that they are. Empathy and forgiveness plays such a huge role.
“It is a long going perception that masculinity is always hard, always tough and somehow disconnected to any sort of feeling that is considered a feminine feeling.
“But the truth is the more that their feelings are nurtured and understood, the more that their masculinity flourishes,” sey pa ng anak ni Sen. Robin Padilla.
At bilang nanay ng dalawang boys, “Anything that will help me undo my own deeply rooted toxic beliefs on masculinity is a step closer to me in becoming a better parent to them. That is a blessing that I am grateful for.”
Nauna rito, nabanggit din ni Kylie sa “Fast Talk with Boy Abunda” na maayos naman ang co-parenting agreement nila ni Aljur sa kanilang mga anak.
“Aljur and I co-parent. Everytime na kukunin niya ‘yung mga bata, we talk. If may bagong ugali ‘yung mga anak namin na sa tingin ko kailangan niyang pagsabihan or to guide them. Same with him. Batuhan lang kami and we try to make it as consistent as possible,” ang sey ni Kylie.