DEAR Ateng Beth,
I am in a long distance relationship. I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me, too.
I am in relationship with a guy for the last two and a half years. But now I think things are not working well between the two of us.
Since he has a business, he is too busy and is unable to give me time. We have not seen each other for about two months now.
Everytime we chat, I couldn’t help but question him.
Lagi kong tinatanong sa kanya kung bakit nawawalan na siya ng oras para sa akin, kahit isang oras man lang na video call, wala. Before, lagi siyang may message sa akin, laging tumatawag, pero ngayon paminsan-minsan na lang at kung minsan ay totally na wala.
He has many excuses. I really don’t know what’s happening with him. I feel like he has no more interest in me. I feel like I’m losing him and I am no longer important to him. That’s why I started ignoring him. I really love him but sometimes I get this tiring feeling that he is not into me anymore.
I just want to feel like I’m also his priority. Although every time I ask him he says he loves me and can’t live without me. But now I’m unable to believe it. What should I do?
Please help!
Marilen
Napakahirap ng LDR o long distance relationship and I only have the distance between the lovers to blame when things do not work. Apart from the distance is the breakdown in communication.
So may I suggest you should talk to him directly, sabihin mo yung nararamdaman mo at yung mga pagdududa mo sa kanya. Point out to him what makes you uncomfortable with your current situation.
Pwede rin naman na subukan mong i-figure out what’s bothering him too. My good guess, baka he has some issues too that he can’t tell you right now so be gentle and let him know you are there to listen kung ready na s’ya.
Respect this and also understand his needs. Baka naman busy or stressed talaga siya sa work or may personal struggles din s’ya. I would like to point out that you also have to be extra loving and caring because that will help you keep him and your relationship. Be patient my dear.
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