RUFFA GUTIERREZ
Takot pa rin si Ruffa Gutierrez sa kanyang ex-husband na si Yilmaz Bektas.
Sa launching ng “Voices Against Violence”, inamin ng aktres na kahit ilang taon na ang nakalipas ay may trauma pa rin siya sa nangyari sa kanila ng dating asawa.
Sa panayam ng ABS-CBN, sinabi ni Ruffa na madalas siyang imbitahan ni Yilmaz na pumunta ng Turkey pero hindi siya pumapayag. Kung matatandaan, naong 2007 inamin ni Ruffa na sinasaktan siya ng Turkish businessman.
“Would you believe until now I’m still afraid of my ex-husband? Even if he’s invited me so many times to go back, I don’t want to go back because I have this notion in my head that he will kill me.
“It’s very difficult. You learn from those lessons but when we discuss it, like right now, there’s still pain in my heart. So I guess you never really forget whatever those experiences have brought you, but you just learn and you move on,” aniya pa.
Kasabay nito, inamin din ni Ruffa na nagkaroon siya post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) dahil sa mga nangyari sa kanila ni Yilmaz, “I was actually even in denial. My parents were saying, ‘Why do you have black and blue spots in your body?’ I didn’t say anything until I couldn’t take it anymore and I was ready to leave my husband.”
“Right now they (mga biktima)have somewhere to go because back then, 12 years ago, I didn’t know who to contact, I didn’t know there was a hotline. It’s better to speak out and be free and not live in fear anymore than continue your life in a prison cell…
“If there’s any of you who are listening right now, if you’re getting beaten up by your husbands, we’re here, please tell us because there’s still life out there for everyone,” aniya pa.
Single mother ngayon si Ruffa sa mga anak nila ni Yilmaz na sina Lorin at Venice.