Paul Soriano at Toni Gonzaga
MARAMING ibinuking tungkol sa kanyang sarili si Toni Gonzaga at sa mga pinagdaanan niyang challenges noong unang taon ng pagsasama nila ni Paul Soriano bilang married couple.
Limang taon na ngayong kasal ang celebrity couple at inamin ni Toni na ang first year nila ni Paul bilang mag-asawa ang “most difficult year of our entire marriage” (so far).
“When I got married, doon ko lang na-realize na it’s not just physically leaving your old house and your old life. Kasi I thought when I left my house, I already left. But no,” kuwento ni Toni sa panayam sa kanya ni Matteo Guidicelli.
Patuloy pa niyang pagbabalik-tanaw, “My mind, my emotions were all still living with my parents because for 30 years I’ve lived with them.
“Programmed na ‘yung buong katawan mo na ito ‘yung katawan ko, ito ‘yung system ko. So for the first year of our marriage, I would always consult my parents. I would always run to them for advice,” aniya pa.
Noong una ay hindi maintindihan at hindi matanggap ng TV host-actress at vlogger na rin ngayon na hindi na siya ang dating Toni Gonzaga.
“That’s not who you are anymore. You are somebody’s wife and the two of you are one. I respect my parents and I love them very much but there has to be a boundary once you are married),” paliwanag ng sisteraka ni Alex Gonzaga.
Sa tanong kung na-hurt ba rito ang kanyang mga magulang, “Yes, oo. It was also a bit difficult for them in the beginning because we had rules in our house like no more visitors ng mga 9 p.m. dati. My parents would get hurt na ‘Why can’t we visit you if we want to?’”
In fairness, habang tumatagal naman daw ang pagsasama nila ni Paul ay unti-unti rin siyang nakakapag-adjust. Natutunan na rin niyang tanggapin ang mga pagbabago sa kanyang buhay.
Isa pa raw sa mga challenge na hinarap niya ay ang pagsa-submit sa kanyang sarili kay Direk Paul, “That’s so hard for me, I cannot accept na ‘Paul, you are my boss.’
“Kasi I am such an alpha female. Malakas din ‘yung personality ko. I cannot accept nu’ng time na ‘yun na ‘Ha, you’re my boss? I will submit to you?’ It’s so hard to grasp that,” katwiran ni Toni.
Pero paliwanag niya, “Submitting is not like bowing down to your husband and adoring your husband and worshipping your husband. Submitting is allowing him to lead your family. It’s not dying, it’s not playing small or you will die to yourself just to please your husband.
“Submitting is honoring your husband, his decisions also. But it doesn’t mean when Paul makes a decision, he does not consult me.
“He always consults me because we are one. But you allow him kasi he’s the head of the household and you’re the light of the house. Be that light,” chika pa ni Toni.